WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEBODY

'when you love somebody, you don't love them all the time, in exactly the same way from moment to moment . It is impossible. It is even lie to pretend to. and yet this is exactly most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, or relationships. We leap at the flow of time and insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity. where in fact the only continuity possible in life is in growth, in fluidity, in freedom. The only security is not in owning or possesing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping even. Security in a relationship lays neitherin looking back to what it was nor forward to what it might be but living in the present and accepting it as it is how'